Are you living in fine?

I recently watch a Ted Talk by Mel Robbins and it was amazing. I love her straight shooting humorous style of telling it like it is!

Did  you know that 1/3 of all Americans feel dissatisfied with their life.  This is so crazy because we live in one of the most abundant times in the world right now.  Here is my question to you - are you dissatisfied with your life? Maybe with your weight, love life, your career, your home or something else. Chances are you are dissatisfied with some part of your life. The good news is, you have all of the tools to change it as soon as today and it is simple but it is going to require work on your part.

What do you want out of your life? Pick something that you want, desire or crave. Make it very specific, tangible and personal and hold that image in your mind. Now start to listen to your internal dialogue about why you don't have that thing you are thinking about. Chances are you are telling yourself, it's fine that I don't have that because I have all of this. Or my car is fine, I don't really need a new car.  Or my job is fine and pays ok I shouldn't really complain. Or my marriage is fine we get along for the most part so I should be happy. REALLY?? 


The problem is, we hide behind "being" FINE not feeling FINE. I don't believe fine is a feeling but rather an excuse. If we all live in the world of FINE we will never reach our full potential. We live in a world where we have everything at our fingertips and yet we all keep settling for fine.  Do you want to know why we say we feel fine? Because the word is creating a neutral  state for us so that we don't have to do any heavy lifting to change our habits. Feel something go god sakes- feel good, fantastic, excellent or even crappy but fine is a cop-out. 

In her talk, Mel explains the concept of Activation Energy, i.e. the natural force that is needed to make a physical change. Once you use activation energy or force you can then leverage your results via momentum. 

The impetus gained by a moving object.

Activation Energy is a very simple concept but it is not easy, as you must force yourself to do something different than you're used to. And as long as you keep telling yourself you are FINE, you won't feel like doing anything different to get what you want. You must use physical force to change your behavior.

Do you ever feel like you are on auto pilot in your life? I know I do sometimes. It is the way we give our brain a break from having to make the same decisions over and over each day. It is good for routine things like driving to work, getting dressed for your workout, mowing the lawn, etc. The challenge comes when we  go on auto-pilot for everything in our life.  See our brain functions in one  of two ways -  auto pilot or emergency break. So you basically go from a state of auto-pilot and floating along to a screeching halt when confronted with something that is outside our comfort zone. The only way to break out of this cycle is to use force or Activation Energy which creates a break from your current routine. 

My goal as a coach is to assist you in curating your most beautiful and authentic life. That is different for everyone one as they say "beauty is in the eye of the beholder." So you define what that is to you and I will  help you get there. A big part of my coaching is based in utilizing activation, momentum and celebrating little wins along the way. 

Here is your homework for the week. Take 20 minutes and watch this video and start tomorrow buy practicing Mel's 5 second rule. I think you will be shocked and surprised at what will begin to happen in our life when you stop thinking, stop feeling and just do it! (Thanks Phil Knight). When you are inspired or have an urge do it! Don't let the clock hit 6 seconds and watch that opportunity pass you by because it will never, ever be there again. Think about that...

Need a little extra assistance?  Get a roller bottle of Motivate from doTERRA.  This oil smells amazing and will give you some "fine fighting" superpower by "tying" the scent to your Activation Energy or force. The reason why this works, is the part of your brain that processes smell, has strong physical links to the hippocampus and amygdala, the brain areas that are involved in formation of encoding. So when you use aromatherapy with a force, the new habit you are trying to form becomes more "sticky." Easy peasy rice and cheesy. 

Add some instant superpower to getting all you want!

Add some instant superpower to getting all you want!

Heidi Wells