Haters Gonna Hate and Why I Love Taylor Swift

"Haters gonna hate, hate, hate, hate, hate Baby, I'm just gonna shake, shake, shake, shake, shake, I shake it off, I shake it off. "
Taylor Swift

This should be the anthem for all of us women these days. Why do we have such a hard time "shaking off" what other people think, say and feel about us?  I know intrinsically we all want to be liked or loved at a very deep level. But at the end of the day, not everyone is going to like everyone so we just need to accept this fact of life. 

In order for us ladies to get down and dirty with our life's purpose, we are going to have learn how to "shake it off" as we have so many more important things to do than to sit around and worry about what someone else is thinking about us, saying about us, or even worse, spreading nasty rumors about us. We cannot control that. Life is 10% of what happens to us and 90% of how we respond to it.

To be honest, I still still find myself in that self-talk and I am trying to be more conscience about it as I think it is one major thing that adds to my overall anxiety in my life. Just being vulnerable here with you all.

So back to Taylor... I saw Taylor Swift on her 1989 tour in Seattle and I have to say that lady can ROCK a stadium! I love Taylor Swift. I mean she's  beautiful, talented, has super models for besties, wears the perfect shade of red lipstick, dates anyone she wants and can take shit from Kanye West and still come out on top. 

If you remember, Swift released Shake it Off as the fist song on her much anticipated 1989 album. She was taking A LOT of heat for changing her music genre from country to pop. She was being criticized for leaving her "roots."  I have to say it was one of the more successful cross-overs I have ever seen. I still am having a hard time with Hootie and the Blowfish's lead singer Darius Rucker as a country singer.  It just isn't working for me. Sorry, I digress.

The point is, this was a brilliant PR move on her part to lead off with this single from her album. It set a tone and posture that she was just going to move forward with her gift of music and do whatever the hell she wanted to do, period . She didn't care what anyone thought about it,  and she moved forward and trusted her gut.  It doesn't matter if you like Taylor Swift or not,  you got to give it up to her for her ability to tell everyone to go to hell in a very nice way (by having one of her most successful albums of all times) and going for it! If you really want to  to understand her mindset, read about her lawsuit she just won for $1 and watch her new video Look What You Made Me Do.Trust me, it does not end how you think it might if you have heard the song.

We need to learn to become more like T-Swizzle and let the comments, opinions of others, or negative thoughts and feelings flow quickly through our bodies and off our backs. We need to laugh at ourselves, find empathy for our shortcomings and be more vulnerable. We cannot let these feelings get stuck inside of us as it will lead to illness, low self esteem, depression and anxiety.  Ann't nobody got time for that!

I learned at the Tony Robbins event UPW, that the quickest way to change your state or your mindset is to physically move your body. So literally "shaking it off" can actually help move you through your negative feelings or thoughts. Anytime you are feeling this way, just change your physical state. Go for a walk, dance, jump up and down, do a couple yoga moves. By simply doing this you can change how you feel and frankly get onto the more important things in your life!

So with that said, play the video below and shake it off girl!


Heidi Wells