For many of us who live in suffering and are trying to make our lives better, our dreams come true, or just make it through to the next day, often have a hard time believing that there is a power or force outside of our control that could catapult us to what we are desiring.
I am here to tell you that as a recovering control addict, there is NOTHING you can control but you. It only took me 50 years to realize this but now that I am in what I call, "control recovery" I have found my life to be much lighter in many ways.
You see before this year, my highest value in life was control. If I could control everything then I would not get hurt, I could have everything my way, I could make all of the decisions and always be right. Once I realized this ,BS ( Belief System) was not only hurting me but making me miserable in my life, it opened up a world of possibility that I never imagined.
Women tend to want a lot of control in their lives. I believe this is because we live in fear and anxiety and one of our highest values is security and safety so, having control makes sense. We are under the illusion that by controlling everything and everyone, life will be OK or safe. There are even women who say that control is not important to them, but they covertly control in a very passive way. Trust me I have seen it all... I am an expert and a recovering control addict. And we wonder why we live in suffering?
We have been traumatized by our past life events, believing that these things have happened to us not FOR us and if we take the control, these things will never happen again. What if you were to begin today to look at these life events as gifts? Love what is happening for you. Try and find the lesson in each situation. How can you grow from this? What will you do different next time? Could you have taken a different path that would have led a different outcome? Be curious about it. When you are curious that's when the juicy learning in your life begins to happen.
So, what happens when you let go of the illusion that you are in control and believe that there is a higher power - the Universe, God, Source Power, whatever you believe in, working 24/7 to assist you in getting all that you desire? We are afraid to trust the very source of creation to guide us to our life's purpose. Instead we are mistrusting and fearful and then we get in our head thinking we are in control. Why might you ask? Because in this complicated, technology driven, fake world we live in today, we have lost our faith. Faith that the most powerful force is your wingman and is always there to assist you in getting that new job, having a baby, moving across the county for the love of your life, getting the body you want, taking your family on vacation to Hawaii, or what ever it is you want.
Let go of your limiting BS and know in your heart that the once you create your new BS, you will accomplish all that you desire in 2018.